Here’s a little bit about us…
Me ~ I’m a 39-year-old city girl. I am a runner. My career is an important part of my existence – but not at the expense of the important people in my life. I have 2 cats, a condo, a fantastic family and really great friends. As of the start of this blog, I am about 8 months into being in a relationship with an amazing guy and his pretty awesome kids. Some days I feel like I’m doing OK. Other days I think about running away. I hear this is normal among bio-parents; it is very unsettling for me.
S ~ aka My Guy. The amazing, adventurous guy who is embarking on this journey with me. He’s 40, living in Suburbia. He has his kids 50% of the time – sometimes more. He’s a great Dad. He’s a professional musician. Smart. Funny. Deliciously hot. He is also incredibly loving and compassionate. He brings out the best in me. I can be present with him – which is a big deal as I can’t think of a time in my life when I wasn’t planning next steps. It is a real gift to be able to share this with him. I can be myself with S in ways I haven’t in previous relationships – including being honest about things I struggle with in our relationship and things that I’m scared about with navigating the whole partner-of-guy-with-kids space. I always feel heard and valued and supported by him. Yep. He’s pretty great.
N ~ My Guy’s 8-year-old son. Swimming phenom. Math whiz. Aspiring astrophysicist. Fellow introvert. Getting “in” with him has been harder than with V, but it’s a lot of fun and is emerging as a really deep connection.
V ~ My Guy’s 5-year-old daughter. Extrovert extraordinaire. Funny. Giggly. Super-cuddly. Strong. Her fierce and my fierce are an interesting mix. I am learning a lot about myself in observing her. I love that she is her own person and that she celebrates her strength – physically and interpersonally. It’s fun to play a part in her development. It also sometimes borders on a battle of wills.
The Ex, aka Cucumber (more on this in a future post) ~ My Guy’s ex-wife and the kids’ Mom. She’s an interesting person. Introverted and a bit socially guarded. Interacting with her has been everything from really awkward to surprisingly easy. Sometimes she interacts with S and makes 0 eye contact with me, while I’m standing right there. Other times she shares stuff with me that she hasn’t shared with S – like the time she was trying to get N to get a haircut and she made a deal with a girl he has a crush on that if she could convince N to get a haircut B would take the girl for Starbucks.