The Single Girl’s Guide to Marrying a Man, His Kids and His Ex-Wife
by Sally Bjornsen
This book made me feel like I wasn’t completely crazy in what I was feeling, thinking and experiencing. Most of my friends have their own bio kids. I don’t know anyone else who has gone from single-in-the-city to dating a guy with kids. So it was refreshing to read the perspective of someone else who had walked the journey and survived. Don’t let the word “Marrying” scare you off (it took me about 3 days to get over that). Oh, and My Guy read this too. He was totally into learning more about what this experience is like for me (sorry, ladies, he’s mine).
Stepcoupling: Creating and Sustaining a Strong Marriage in Today’s Blended Family
by Susan Wisdom & Jennifer Green
Again, do not let the word “Marriage” scare you off. I wanted to read this in this early stage in our relationship because I know that what we are doing now will set the pace for the character of our relationship. It’s really easy for the busy-ness of life – my more-than-full-time job, his often-more-than-50%-custody-of-the-kids, kids’ activities, etc., to take over and for “us” to get lost. This book provided a lot of great suggestions for finding balance – something that is a struggle for any couple, but one that I think is especially important to address when you’re trying to build a new relationship as an insta-family
The Happy Stepmother: Stay Sane, Empower Yourself, Thrive in Your New Family
by Rachelle Katz
OK. I honestly haven’t read this one yet. It came highly recommended and it is currently sitting on my bookshelf. After reading 2 books like this this summer, I needed a bit of a break. So I’m back to reading fiction for now. Seems like a healthy escape.
The Stepmom’s Toolbox
Do you have suggestions for other resources for helping us Single Girls manage relationships, instant parenting and other identity crises? Post them in the comments!